Take responsibility of your life – that is the message and the aim of today’s blog entry.
“The price of greatness is responsibility.” – Winston Churchill.
The word responsible comes from two words: response and able. Seems obvious. Therefore, being responsible for your life means that while you can’t control every situation in your life, you are always able to control how you respond to them. This fact doesn’t change because of the nature of the circumstance and how difficult it may be. This is a significant distinction though. One that warrants you to take stock of the upside of taking responsibility for your life.
When You Take Responsibility for Your Life, It Puts You in The Driver Seat:
Like all of us, your life has not been perfect. You have experienced disappointments, setbacks and adversity of some kind, everyone has. How you respond to that adversity is largely in your own hands. Do you choose to wallow in self-pity and major in the blame game, for example?
Accepting full responsibility for your life puts you in the driver seat of how your life unfolds. Constant complaining about the state of any aspect of your life serves little valuable or positive purpose. More often complaining diminishes the amount of positive emotional energy that you exhibit towards taking meaningful actions that can change your situation.
This article focuses on this in more detail: A Neat Self-Hypnosis Process For Changing Incessant Whining Into Effective Complaining.
No amount of life hacks can entirely erase the process it takes for you to get from where you are to where you want to be. Sure, there are tips, principles and strategic plans that can help you reduce the amount of time it took someone else to accomplish similar dreams and goals, but they can’t erase the fact that success is a process of quality decisions and purpose driven actions implemented consistently over a period of time. This is a fact of life. Any denial of this truth on your part will not alter it.
Sitting up and choosing to take responsibility is the first step and the mindset that helps you make that choice, is what will also make your life so much better as a result.
Whatever you want to advance, enhance or expand in your life; your relationships, your career, your business, your friendships, your education, living a healthier lifestyle, they all require that you accept responsibility for your present state and engage the most effective process of actions that will help you create and engineer your desired reality.
It Takes Courage to Take Responsibility:
“You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice. What you do comes from what you think.” – Marianne Williamson.
Taking personal responsibility for your life and being accountable for the effectiveness of your actions towards the achievement of your dreams and goals is summed up in this phrase, “If it’s to be, it’s up to me.” This mindset challenges the popular and easy thinking style which encourages people to wallow in self-pity and blame others for the conditions of their lives. It requires courage to believe that in spite of your imperfect life experiences, you have the power to define your destiny. This article will help with that:
– How to Be Brave.
Findings from an instrumental business management research project (“Responsible Behavior: Stamp of the effective manager,” John Zenger, Supervisory Management, July 1976, pgs. 18-24) stated that being responsible is a mindset that says, “I am the person who must make this happen.” The most effective teams in the study were always those who had a leader who took responsibility and did not hide behind them or their performance. It takes guts to challenge the status quo. Defining your destiny begins with accepting the state of your life. It includes, acknowledging the gap between where you are and where you want to be and focusing on what you have to do to play the hand you’ve been dealt to win. You will need to develop personal practices which help you maintain a strong sense of hope while nurturing empowering beliefs in your heart that your efforts will reward you and will not be futile. You’ll need to develop relationships with people who can provide you with wise advice and constructive feedback that supports your success. Nurturing a resilient mindset is essential to maintaining the ability to bounce back from setbacks. Your ability to tune-out the noise of the world so that you can tune-in to yourself while navigating your path forward will be priceless too.
Take Responsibility for Your Life, The Upside:
Becoming fully persuaded in your mind that your destiny is up to you enables you to experience the upside of taking responsibility, which includes the following:
• You don’t depend on others to behave a certain way for you to manifest what you want in your life.
• You recognise that the “ball is in your court” and the decisions that you make determine what your next shot will be.
• You don’t wait on circumstances to be ideal before you begin to initiate the actions it will take to create what you want to experience.
• You have the courage to step out of your history to create the future you desire and deserve. This is ultimately incredibly rewarding and leads to much life fulfilment.
• You cultivate an empowering story of who you are, who you can become, what you are smart and strong enough to handle and what you are worthy of experiencing in life.
Taking responsibility for your life requires that you own up to the choices that you’ve made which reflect the current state of your life. The choice to take full responsibility for your life is not always an easy decision. It requires you to challenge the status quo of a prevailing cultural norm that tends to use people and circumstances as a scapegoat for not exercising one’s authority and power to play the hand that you’ve been dealt in life with the purpose of winning.
“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.
Taking responsibility for your life requires courage. The moxie to stop playing small and tap into a greater measure of the seeds of greatness dwelling within your potential will come as a result of your decision to get into the driver seat of your life. A proactive approach towards defining your destiny fuels the personal leadership traits of courage, confidence and perseverance. Here is a great article on that very subject to help you with this too…. Ways to Master the Art of Grit and Perseverance. https://www.adam-eason.com/ways-master-grit-perseverance/ Over time, the quality of your decisions and the effectiveness of your actions will determine your capacity to manifest new possibilities in your life and career. Make it your aim today to adopt a mindset that signals that you are choosing to take responsibility for who and how you are.
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We have not met yet we have spoken on the phone a few years ago now. I just want to say that I have subscribed to your exine ever since and I have have found it to be uplifting, informative and somewhat inspirational in part which is a credit to you.
Please keep up the good work. I am still very interested in your subject albeit professionally I am simply too busy to follow up any further at the moment but no doubt I will in the future.
I have really enjoyed your take on life too and your view of the power of the mind over it, and cannot thank you enough for sharing it with us on a weekly basis.
You are a fantastic source of inspiration and when looking for answers I simply start reading your work!
Thank you for taking the time to write and say so Martin.
Best wishes, Adam.