10 Ways to Increase Your Emotional Intimacy

10 Ways to Increase Your Emotional Intimacy

“Intimacy transcends the physical. It is a feeling of closeness that isn’t about proximity, but of belonging. It is a beautiful emotional space in which two become one.” - Steve Maraboli What comes to mind when you think of intimacy? Sex? Cuddling? The capacity to...

13 Ways Vulnerability Can Benefit You

13 Ways Vulnerability Can Benefit You

“Vulnerability is the essence of romance. It's the art of being uncalculated, the willingness to look foolish, the courage to say, 'This is me, and I'm interested in you enough to show you my flaws with the hope that you may embrace me for all that I am but, more...

How To Cope With the Aging Process

How To Cope With the Aging Process

“Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength.” - Betty Friedan Many changes occur within us as we age, both physically and emotionally, and coping with the aging process can be stressful. We may not have the same vitality we once had as young...

How to Reduce Hypervigilance

How to Reduce Hypervigilance

It is considered a part of human nature to attempt to avoid harm and conflict however possible. We tend to be vigilant of much that is around us to protect ourselves from potential threats. There is no wrong with it as it is a common yet beneficial practice for one's...

How to Boost Brain Health

How to Boost Brain Health

The human brain is incredible. Many regard it as the most advanced computer in existence. Our brain has the capacity to receive and process lots of new information every second. I’ve written often about the brain – boths facts and myths. Reading about all the more...

How to Not Feel Guilty About Putting Yourself First

How to Not Feel Guilty About Putting Yourself First

For many of us, life is all about being with the ones you love. Sharing your happiness and sorrows with them while looking out for them. But in this regard, we often tend to forget something equally (if not more) important. Putting yourself first is what many of us...

The Importance of Rest for your Physical and Mental Health

The Importance of Rest for your Physical and Mental Health

According to psychology gaining proper rest is not only essential for life and survival, but for the creative capacities that will power the knowledge industries of the future. You may at times feel super active even at the end of a busy day which would convince you...

How to Gain Wisdom

How to Gain Wisdom

You might have often heard the advice to ‘be wise’ or ‘choose wisely’. Have you ever wondered how one becomes wise? Before going down that road, it helps to first understand wisdom's true meaning.The typical dictionary definition is as follows: having the power of...

How to Self Validate

How to Self Validate

Do you often feel the need for constant validation? If yes, then know that you are not alone. Most of us want to be acknowledged, understood, and accepted. Even if life feels unfair and everything goes upside down, we like people to tell us that it will be okay....

How Helping Others is Good for Your Health

How Helping Others is Good for Your Health

“Helping others is the way we help ourselves.” – Oprah Winfrey. Did you know that helping others can do wonders for your health? As surprising as it may sound, when we help others, we are not only making the world a better place, but we are also helping ourselves to...

How To Overcome Avoidance Behaviour

How To Overcome Avoidance Behaviour

“Avoidance is the best short-term strategy to escape conflict, and the best long-term strategy to ensure suffering.” – Brendon Burchard. Avoidance behaviours or avoidance coping is a very common but ineffective way of coping in which a person alters their behaviour in...

The Personality Traits of a Psychopath

The Personality Traits of a Psychopath

How often have you come across the term ‘Psychopath'? Your answer might well be ‘frequently, especially if you have developed a penchant for Netflix documentaries. A better question that arises, however, is, what does it really mean? A psychopath is not merely a...

How to Find Your Tribe

How to Find Your Tribe

"Surround yourself with people who add value to your life. Who challenges you to be greater than you were yesterday? Who sprinkles magic into your existence, just like you do to theirs? Life isn't meant to be done alone. Find your tribe, and journey freely and loyally...

How To Stop Being Resentful

How To Stop Being Resentful

Resentment is defined as a negative emotion often experienced due to being mistreated (or perceived by us as being mistreated)and is more common than we might think. Frustration, anger, and disappointment are a part of our lives. However, when these feelings become...

How to Revitalise Your Mind

How to Revitalise Your Mind

Taking care of our mental health is very important. I write to that effect most weeks in my articles here. Some may think even more so though in the post-pandemic world we are living in. It is crucial now more than ever that we take responsibility for our mental...

Emotions! How to Regulate Your Emotions

Emotions! How to Regulate Your Emotions

“The biggest challenge to self-control is emotional regulation. Successful people know how to make their emotions servants rather than masters."- Paul TP Wang. Emotions are feelings derived from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships. Our feelings and emotions...

How to Enjoy the Journey; Happiness is not a Destination

How to Enjoy the Journey; Happiness is not a Destination

“Happiness is a direction, not a place"- Sydney Harris. We often get so caught up chasing after goals or our dreams that we forget that real happiness can be found in the journey. You may think that you will be happy once you get the promotion you have wanted for so...

How to Live a Simple Life and be Happy

How to Live a Simple Life and be Happy

“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” - Socrates. There is a strong connection between living simply and living happily. The former can certainly contribute greatly to the latter, meaning there...

How to Discover more of your Inner Resources

How to Discover more of your Inner Resources

We have a lot of strengths and weaknesses, and that is what makes us human. However, sometimes we forget about all the strengths we have and solely focus on our weaknesses. Over the course of many years, scientists have discovered that each person possesses all...

How to Embrace Your Imperfections

How to Embrace Your Imperfections

I’ve written numerous articles related to this theme over the years, because it is something that I have found to be so important professionally and personally.“Imperfections are not inadequacies: they’re reminders that we are all in this together.”- Brene Brown Our...

Ways to Create a Deeper Connection with Yourself

Ways to Create a Deeper Connection with Yourself

"Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have." I find myself agreeing with the above Robert Holden quote.  You see, when we connect with ourselves, it usually leads to more meaningful connections with others. When we check...

How To Say No More Often

How To Say No More Often

Here at my college, as part of our diploma training, we teach assertiveness training. One of the better self-help books about assertiveness training is entitled “When I say No, I feel guilty” by Manuel Smith. Though it is only one small component part of learning to...

Why Do We Like Mysteries

Why Do We Like Mysteries

The Information We Miss Is Often What We Are Most Interested In Throughout history, we have always been fascinated by mysteries. Questions we don’t have the immediate answer to just seem to be more interesting than the ones we could figure out momentarily. This...

How to avoid choking under pressure

How to avoid choking under pressure

Have you ever frozen in front of a room full of people while giving a speech even though you knew exactly what you had to say? Happens to the best of us. Despite rehearsing for days and committing the speech to memory, sometimes we stutter, stumble, or forget what we...

What Happens In The Brain When We Are Afraid

What Happens In The Brain When We Are Afraid

The Science Behind One Of Our Primal Emotions (fear or being afraid) Fear is one of our driving forces. It can make us run faster, think more critically, and have way more strength than usual within mere seconds of spotting a threat. It can also be paralysing,...

How to Spring Clean for Your Mental Health

How to Spring Clean for Your Mental Health

Spring is here and it symbolises new beginnings, a fresh start, a renewal, or an awakening to many of us. Perhaps this is why we all give our homes a ritualistic thorough clean as soon as spring arrives to make sure our homes are perfectly clean for the start of the...

How To Naturally Raise Energy Levels

How To Naturally Raise Energy Levels

I think it is a combination of many things, but many of my friends and clients are struggling with feeling tired and raising energy levels through healthy means. The opandemic effected many, having young children can effect many, and the demands of modern living – so...

How to stop Doomscrolling

How to stop Doomscrolling

Doomscrolling, also known as doomsurfing, is the trendy new buzzword that has been receiving a lot of attention lately. Doomscrolling is a relatively new phenomenon. It describes a person overindulging in social media usage or web surfing to absorb negative news....

How to Form Your Own Opinion

How to Form Your Own Opinion

Plato was right when he said, “Opinion is the medium between knowledge and ignorance.” If you wish to excel academically, professionally, and personally, know that it is very important that you know how to think rationally and develop your own opinion on any...

Mental Health Benefits of Reading

Mental Health Benefits of Reading

Reading can have profound positive effects on both your mental and physical health. In this article, we are going to discuss the tremendous mental health benefits offered by reading. Joseph Addison was right when he said, "Reading is to the mind what exercise is to...

8 Ways to Be Proud of Yourself

8 Ways to Be Proud of Yourself

It is usually fairly simple to be proud of someone. For example, when your loved ones succeed, or your friend gets a desired promotion. Maybe it’s your sibling who got a promotion at work. Maybe someone you know well just published their first book. Yes, many of us...

How to Feel More Awe in Your Everyday Life

How to Feel More Awe in Your Everyday Life

Matthew Fox once said, “Awe is the beginning of wisdom. Awe is the beginning of education”. This quote by Fox highlights the importance of awe as it makes us think more critically, be humbler and lead to greater satisfaction in life. Before we start discussing the...

What Is Intelligence, Really?

What Is Intelligence, Really?

The Definitions & Implications Of Human Intelligence Throughout history, humanity has struggled to quantify and measure the things that make us adapt, evolve, and survive. Nowadays, we pretty much use the terms “intelligent” and “smart” interchangeably and with...

Using Stress Management To Improve Efficiency

Using Stress Management To Improve Efficiency

Here today, I want to help you understand stress from a psychological perspective, symptoms, and effects, and what to do whenever you find yourself drowning in this common psychological challenge. The key message? Instead of stress using your body to work against you,...

How Does Isolation Affect The Human Brain?

How Does Isolation Affect The Human Brain?

With the global pandemic happening in the world right now, many of us are thinking about how isolation can affect us and how it has affected us already given that so many of us have been living with a range of restrictions for the past two years now. There’s a lot we...

8 Ways to Live a More Courageous Life

8 Ways to Live a More Courageous Life

Living more courageously requires us to live as fearlessly as possible and appropriate. We should be willing to try pretty much anything and everything. Unfortunately, most of us let a variety of fears run our lives for us. We all have fears. We are all afraid of...

Famous Quotes And Their Backstory

Famous Quotes And Their Backstory

Psychology’s Defining Words And How They Came Into Being A lot of people would argue speech is what made us the way we are right now. On a biological level, the ability to speak, read and write has led to massive differences in our brains, and on a psychological...

8 Ways to Let Go of Control and Embrace Surrender

8 Ways to Let Go of Control and Embrace Surrender

Do you find yourself trying to control things you have absolutely no control over? Wanting everything to turn out precisely the way you want it to be? According to Tanvi Patel, a psychotherapist, “relentless craving to control everything has many possible...

The Psychology of How to Stick to Your Goals

The Psychology of How to Stick to Your Goals

One exciting thing about new year time for many, is that you get to make new goals and resolutions, perhaps with a renewed sense of vigour and enthusiasm. With every new year, you are availing yourself a great new opportunity to reflect, restore and turn a new leaf...

10 Ways to Be a Better Listener

10 Ways to Be a Better Listener

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you were pouring your heart out, but the other person was not listening or paying attention? They maybe heard you out, but you got the sense they weren’t listening. They maybe too busy checking their emails or texting,...

How to Discover and Update Your Core Beliefs

How to Discover and Update Your Core Beliefs

My very first therapist said something to me that I have written about many times before in the past, in mid conversation he said “well Adam, whatever you believe to be the truth, is the truth for you…” As he carried on talking, a lightbulb switched on in my head and...

How To Kickstart Your New Year in Style?

How To Kickstart Your New Year in Style?

The new year is just around the corner, and we all are heading towards what is often seen as an opportunity for a completely new start. Such a new start could of course be taken any day of the year, but the new year is a time that many seize as an opportunity. The...

How to Celebrate the Festive Season Guilt-Free?

How to Celebrate the Festive Season Guilt-Free?

I have put the outside Christmas lights up (fighting off hyperthermia in the process!), our tree and decorations are up, the advent calendars are being worked through and Christmas parties loom large.  Yes indeed, it’s now that time of the year! With the festive...

How to Alleviate Pandemic Burnout

How to Alleviate Pandemic Burnout

I’ve just booked my booster jab for later this week, and as more waves of people locally here and at my children’s school are falling ill with Covid, I’ve definitely found myself reflecting on the past couple of years since the pandemic began and realising the...

6 Ways to Improve Mental Flexibility

6 Ways to Improve Mental Flexibility

Over on my Instagram account this past week, I posted a couple of infographics about mental flexibility and wanted to write in a bit more depth about the topic here.Although he has been greatly misquoted on this, Darwin wrote and spoke about the value of being...

10 Ways to Take Things Slow in Life

10 Ways to Take Things Slow in Life

As Paul Simon once sang “slow down, you move too fast.”While technology and other aspects of modern living aim to make our lives easier for us, we have also become busier than ever whereby many hardly find enough time for themselves. Today, we tend to demand fast...

7 Amazing Facts About Your Brain

7 Amazing Facts About Your Brain

The brain has long been an organ of fascination, which has intrigued biologists and researchers with its complexities. All of us know, it is an integral part of your bodily functions. From ensuring an efficient supply of oxygen around your body to coordinating the...

How to Trust Yourself More

How to Trust Yourself More

When teaching our students about how to become effective therapists, one of the key predictors of successful outcomes I mention often is that of developing an effective working alliance with those that you work with, and a central component of that is establishing...

How To Persist in The Face of Failure?

How To Persist in The Face of Failure?

Failure is a part of life, and it is usually accompanied by a range of emotions: these could be anger, embarrassment, guilt, and at times sadness as well. However, it is believed that these negative emotions can really affect your mental and physical well being. These...

How to Stop Letting the Little Things Bother You?

How to Stop Letting the Little Things Bother You?

I admit that I have those days when I let plenty of the little things bother me to the point whereby I become less effective in my work, and far less of the kind of person that I wish to be each day. So I sought out how to stop letting the little things bother me so...

9 Ways to Say No!

9 Ways to Say No!

Many of us feel guilty when and if we say no, yet do not realise how much good it can do us to say no more often; that is, to take less on, and to choose what we engage with in terms of that which brings us more joy, benefit and well-being. Often in life, we may even...

Can You Make Anxiety Work to Your Advantage?

Can You Make Anxiety Work to Your Advantage?

Recent statistics from a range of mental health charities and governmental agencies suggest that anxiety is on the rise, especially following recent world events. Many people deal with anxiety by avoiding that which they are anxious about, and by being temporarily...

10 Ways to Better Regulate Your Emotions

10 Ways to Better Regulate Your Emotions

If the past year and a half with the lockdowns that many of us experienced and the naturally stressful life conditions, many of us have become aware that the very experience and expression of emotions are vital to our well-being...

14 Ways to Deal with Negative People in Your Life

14 Ways to Deal with Negative People in Your Life

Not everything in life can be perfect and sweet, and so is the case with the people in your life. We all can relate to the idea that some people in your life simply drain the energy out of you. No matter how hard you try, you are left feeling down, exhausted, and even...

How to Feel Younger?

How to Feel Younger?

During the first lockdown here in the UK, a couple of friends of mine mentioned that the conditions had made them “feel their age” and that they were ageing more than at any other time in their lives – a combination of trying to keep up with lively young children at...

How to find out who you really are.

How to find out who you really are.

“No one knows your truth but you. If you're secure in yourself, no one and no(thing) can touch you.” ― Brittany Burgunder Finding yourself and knowing who you truly are gives you so much – when we get to know anyone better, we learn to trust, connect and be more...

8 Ways to Feel More Self-Empowered in Your Life

8 Ways to Feel More Self-Empowered in Your Life

We've all felt absolutely powerless at times; useless, unimportant, and undeserving at some point in our lives. A bystander's snide remark, a failed relationship, feeling unappreciated by a close friend, or even worse - aggression, deprivation, and desertion-can make...

How to overcome the need for approval

How to overcome the need for approval

"Criticism is something you can easily avoid by saying nothing, doing nothing, being nothing.” - Aristotle The constant need for approval can lead to some of our personal freedoms being destroyed. Approval seeking is something I see a great deal within my work with...

How to develop Self-Compassion

How to develop Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is something that has become increasingly important to me and my work with my clients throughout the past decade. I have certainly found that the more individuals understand themselves and the reasons for them being the way they are, the more likely...

How to Be More Consistent in Life

How to Be More Consistent in Life

This weekend just gone by was the final module of our current hypnotherapy practitioner diploma course. A number of our students are becoming graduates and are readying themselves to set up in business. One of the replies I give when asked about some of the more...

13 Ways to Find Happiness in the Simple Things

13 Ways to Find Happiness in the Simple Things

When times are difficult, everyone looks for varying ways to stay motivated and cheerful. Keeping a positive attitude can have a lot to do with how you see the world around you, but altering your vision of the world can sometimes be difficult. I know I find it...

9 Ways to Have More Mental Energy

9 Ways to Have More Mental Energy

Having energy is a well-known concept to all of us. We are all aware of physical energy levels, how they affect us, and ways to increase our physical energy. Many of us do not pay heed to the mental aspect of energy, or if we do, it is more of an afterthought. Mental...

How to gain the benefits of API: Assume Positive Intent

How to gain the benefits of API: Assume Positive Intent

"Listen with the intent to understand, not the intent to reply."- Stephen Covey.I listened to a fascinating interview with the MD of a world renowned meditation app when we had gone into lockdown for the first time here in the UK. Once of the things he mentioned...

How to Combat Zoom Fatigue?

How to Combat Zoom Fatigue?

The current pandemic definitely put a wrench in the well-oiled gears of people’s lives, grinding many of us to a sudden and jolting halt. Many went through a dramatic change; whether it was school, university or work, we had to adapt to a new method and standard of...

How to Stop Trying to Fit In

How to Stop Trying to Fit In

This is a topic that I have written about often. I’ve written about embracing your individuality, being authentic, being a geek, being a weirdo and lots more besides. While making our way through this life, we encounter and meet a lot of types of people and society in...

How to Stop Competing with Others?

How to Stop Competing with Others?

It can seem that much of today's environment revolves around competition and always trying to be better than the next person. For many, from as early as our school days, we are pitted against each other in a variety of overt or subtle ways, time after time. Whether...

How to Become Mentally Strong

How to Become Mentally Strong

“The ability to continue moving when you are feeling scared, fearful or lazy is the sign of true mental strength.” ― Matthew Donnelly Emotional and Mental health conditions form a vital part of your overall wellbeing. We all tend to know that these days. These...

The physical and psychological benefits of smiling

The physical and psychological benefits of smiling

“CHEESE!” Today, we are all about smiling…. “A warm smile is the universal language of kindness” - William Arthur Ward Smile may well be a small word, yet it holds the power to change a huge amount for any individual it is said to and acted upon. A smile acts as a...

How to Thrive in Chaos

How to Thrive in Chaos

I think a lot of people are fighting some of the chaos that they are experiencing currently. Chaos can actually be incredibly fertile and beneficial if we respond to it differently. That’s hat I’m writing about today…. “Chaos in the world brings uneasiness, but it...

Keys to Leaving a Lasting Legacy

Keys to Leaving a Lasting Legacy

Last week I wrote about creating an impression and it made sense for me to think about the larger impression being left; one’s legacy…. “All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only...

How to Leave a Lasting Impact

How to Leave a Lasting Impact

I think the currently, it is more important than ever to consider making a positive lasting impression upon those we come into contact with, I’m writing about that today… “A life is not important except in the impact it has on other lives.” ― Jackie Robinson Dale...

How to Limit the Effects of Too Much Screen Time

How to Limit the Effects of Too Much Screen Time

Since the beginning of lockdown, we've all had to adapt to a new way of working, studying and living. Zoom has been our go-to-application for meetings, classes and business calls to continue. It has allowed us to see and connect with our friends and family. Allowed us...

How Your Mental Health Affects Your Physical Health

How Your Mental Health Affects Your Physical Health

The world is currently subjecting us to a wide range of conditions that we are not used to and that are effecting our mental and physical health in a number of ways. Today I wanted to write briefly about how your mental health directly impacts your physical...

How to Celebrate Your QUIRKS

How to Celebrate Your QUIRKS

My daughter loves Ariana Grande. I have started loving her two since I read this quote by her…“Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are.” -  Ariana Grande It was a leap of...

11 Ways To Value Yourself More

11 Ways To Value Yourself More

Today, I’m writing about how to value yourself more. "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." - Lucille Ball We all have the capacity to love and value ourselves a huge amount and...

How to Motivate Yourself in a Lockdown

How to Motivate Yourself in a Lockdown

Since the start of the new year, those who follow me on social media will have seen me posting a few pictures of my assault bike, dumbbells and other snippets to do with a challenge my gym has set throughout the current lockdown – in the gym members Facebook group we...

How to Overcome Distractions and Be More Focused

How to Overcome Distractions and Be More Focused

How to Overcome Distractions and Be More Focused When presented with the psychological tasks I give to my clients and students, many tell me how they get distracted prior to and during them. Likewise, with so much vying for our attention in modern life (even during a...

How to Get More Out Of Life

How to Get More Out Of Life

How to Get More Out Of Life Happy new year! After the year we have just had, many of us are looking to put it well behind us and set about making 2021 a far better one. I have written often on the topic of getting more out of life and it seems more pertinent than ever...

How to Let Go of Grudges and Release Resentment

How to Let Go of Grudges and Release Resentment

With the world facing so many challenges this year, there seems to be more resentment around to accompany much of the division that exists. Letting go of resentment and grudges is what I’m writing about today… “Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness. Laugh when you...

What’s Your Philosophy of Happiness?

What’s Your Philosophy of Happiness?

“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” — Buddha What is Happiness? Simply put, many consider it to be the state of being happy. However, if you think...

How to Deal with Uncertainty

How to Deal with Uncertainty

“Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” - John Allen Paulos Humans naturally do not like uncertainty, especially if we have always been living in a predictable environment. Unfortunately, that’s not...

Setting Goals for 2021

Setting Goals for 2021

“It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goals to reach.” — Benjamin E. Mays  2021 looks to be a year of great uncertainty and the current environment is characterised by significant...

How to Always Have Something To Look Forward To

How to Always Have Something To Look Forward To

What are you looking forward to currently? Isn’t it lovely when we have something to look forward to? That’s what I’m writing about today…. “What good is living a life you’ve been given if all you do is stand in one place”- Anonymous It’s true that we’re all feeling...

How to Set Better Boundaries in Life

How to Set Better Boundaries in Life

“Boundaries are the lines we draw that mark off our autonomy and that of other people that protect our privacy and that of others. Boundaries allow for intimate connection without dissolving or losing one's sense of self.” - Amy Bloom Healthy relationships are such an...

How to Stop Bragging and Be More Humble

How to Stop Bragging and Be More Humble

A famous man one said “I’m a stable genius” on Twitter….  “Bragging about yourself violates norms of modesty and politeness - and if you were really competent, your work would speak for itself.” -  Adam Grant These days, on all forms of social media not just...

Video: Using Self-Hypnosis To Maximise Gym Gains

Video: Using Self-Hypnosis To Maximise Gym Gains

If you follow me on social media, it won't have escaped you that I was once a fairly average endurance runner, who then took up weightlifting. This year, with the help of my coach, I have really gone on to a place where I have made what I consider to be major gains,...

Ways To Find More Joy In Life

Ways To Find More Joy In Life

“Happiness or joy is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” - Dalai Lama. Without a doubt, we have snapshots of delight and times of happiness and ecstasy. Nevertheless, huge numbers of us are tormented with frequent negative feelings – with all...

What To Do When You Feel Lost In Life

What To Do When You Feel Lost In Life

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us. – Joseph Campbell The current situation in the world is leaving some people feeling lost for a variety of reasons. Are you feeling lost? Are you feeling that you...

How to Stop Worrying Whether People Like You

How to Stop Worrying Whether People Like You

“The minute you start caring about what other people think, is the minute you stop being yourself.”  — Meryl Streep Does it effect your self-esteem when you consider what other people think of you? Are you troubled by other’s opinions? In a modern world that...

How to Stop Worrying Whether People Like You

How to Stop Worrying Whether People Like You

“The minute you start caring about what other people think, is the minute you stop being yourself.”  — Meryl Streep Does it effect your self-esteem when you consider what other people think of you? Are you troubled by other’s opinions? In a modern world that...

How to Overcome a Victim Mentality

How to Overcome a Victim Mentality

“We all have a story. The difference is: do you use the story to empower yourself? Or do you use your story to keep yourself a victim? The question itself empowers you to change your life.” ― Sunny Dawn Johnston Let me start by saying, it is understandable that many...

How to Recognise and Deal with a Sycophant

How to Recognise and Deal with a Sycophant

“Whenever you commend, add your reasons for doing so; it is this which distinguishes the approbation of a man of sense from the flattery of sycophants and admiration of fools.” - Richard Steele Sycophancy is flattery that is very obedient, or an indication of...

How to Express Your Feelings in a Healthy Way

How to Express Your Feelings in a Healthy Way

There’s a lot of feeling being expressed in the world currently, and not all of it is being expressed effectively – some of it simply serves to create ill-feeling and negative emotions in others. With feelings running so high, I wanted to write about how to express...

How to Create Happy Memories During Difficult Times

How to Create Happy Memories During Difficult Times

“The most beautiful things are not associated with money; they are memories and moments. If you don’t celebrate those, they can pass you by.” - Alek Wek All of us are living in an unprecedented time. COVID-19 has impacted people across the globe. Our everyday life...

How to Refresh Your Life

How to Refresh Your Life

In recent months I have written about using the current pandemic situation as a possible opportunity to make a new start, or even to reinvent yourself. In a similar vein, today I am talking about refreshing your life. “Rest when you’re weary. Refresh and renew...

How To Let Go of Toxic Masculinity

How To Let Go of Toxic Masculinity

According to the Australian sociologist R. W. Connell (the one who originally coined the phrase), the phrase “toxic masculinity” refers to when a man engages in behaviours that are traditionally considered “masculine” that are damaging to those around him, society at...

How To Reinvent Yourself

How To Reinvent Yourself

I wrote in recent weeks about starting afresh in life and considering the current world situation as an opportunity. This also presents an opportunity to reinvent oneself, and that’s what I’m writing about today… “You are never too old to reinvent yourself.” - Steve...

Video: How to Bounce Back From Being Knocked Down

Video: How to Bounce Back From Being Knocked Down

I'm certain that many of us have experienced being knocked down or knocked back in one way or another. Also likely that we've all seen recently that sometimes life can be messy, challenging and even ugly! Sometimes, life can feel like a great big bully that corners us...

How To Raise Your Conscientiousness

How To Raise Your Conscientiousness

It seems to me that conscientiousness is needed more than ever in the world right now. “Very few things happen at the right time, and the rest do not happen at all. The conscientious historian will correct these defects.” -  Herodotus If you were to improve just...

How To Protect Your Mental Health From Social Media

How To Protect Your Mental Health From Social Media

Most of us use social media of one kind or another these days, and all of us are likely to have been upset, troubled or affected detrimentally in some way as a result of it. Social media is a mouthpiece for so much of the modern world we live in, and it can have a...

How to Overcome Your Inhibitions

How to Overcome Your Inhibitions

Today, I’m writing about inhibition and the often debilitating effect it can have upon us. “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” – Mae West. Overcoming inhibition could make a major impact in your life and help lead to a more successful...

How to Stop Toxic Positivity

How to Stop Toxic Positivity

There have been times when I’ve really struggled during lockdown. Having young children, running a business in a tough financial climate, being prone to depression, not being able to see close friends, attend my gym, run my classes, carry out planned research...

How to Start Afresh After a Crisis

How to Start Afresh After a Crisis

As the world is undergoing a great many changes currently, so are many people’s lives. To the point whereby many are starting afresh in a variety of ways. That’s what I’m writing about today… “You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able...

How To Stop Being Overly Materialistic

How To Stop Being Overly Materialistic

In this video I talk about why letting materialism be the main driver in your life can be quite destructive and problematic. I then go on to talk about a number of ways to transition yourself to being less materialistic. I go on to discuss gratitude and how it can...

How To Stop Judging Others

How To Stop Judging Others

If you or someone you know regularly and automatically judges others without fully understanding those others, and it is proving to be detrimental to do so, then this is for you. There will be times when fair judgement is necessary and required, but here today I'm...

Video: The Perfect Recipe For Self-Destruction

Video: The Perfect Recipe For Self-Destruction

A few years back one of the most popular articles I ever wrote on my blog gave instructions on how to self-destruct. Today, I am offering a video version of that - it is a perfect plan for anyone wanting to self-destruct. That’s right, I have highlighted elements of...

Using Self-Hypnosis To Lower Your Body Temperature

Using Self-Hypnosis To Lower Your Body Temperature

Here on the south coast of England in the midst of lockdown, it is hot. We are experiencing a heatwave (by our standards) and it is hotter than it usually is at this time of year. I sometimes struggle to sleep when it is so warm. I know others have the same challenge;...

Why You Need Routine In Your Life

Why You Need Routine In Your Life

Many of you may well avoid watching this video; I mean, for many the very notion of ‘routine’ being is not necessarily the sexiest or most inspiring of topics. When I suggest to my clients or students that they establish a daily routine, or even a number of daily...

Finding Hope in Difficult Times

Finding Hope in Difficult Times

Hope is something that is a major theme with my hypnotherapy clients, my students, my friends and family. In this video, my aim is that we hold on to hope and that we celebrate hope.When working with clients in my therapy rooms who are suffering with depression, one...

How to Have a Meaningful Conversation

How to Have a Meaningful Conversation

Now is the time to champion deep and meaningful conversations, that’s what I’m doing here today. “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” –Aristotle There’s a wide range of emotions that might occur during these...

How to Feel Good Enough

How to Feel Good Enough

I have spoken to numerous people in the past couple of weeks while we have been in lockdown; parents attempting to home-school their children, some trying to adapt and run a business in a new way, some coping with stress and anxiety that our current situation has...

Video: Become More Creative and Improve Your Imagination

Video: Become More Creative and Improve Your Imagination

In this video, I talk about what creativity actually is and offer a wide range of ways to advance and enhance your own creativity in order that you can achieve more and be more effective in life. I also include a wide number of ways to help improve your imagination...

How to Stop Needing Instant Gratification

How to Stop Needing Instant Gratification

At dinner earlier this week, my children and I were discussing the things we are going to do when the lockdown has ended, and we realised how impatiently we wanted lockdown to be over and how much we really wanted to do those things. Usually, we’d get to do all of...

The Power of Self-Reflection

The Power of Self-Reflection

“Self-Reflection is one of the most underused yet powerful tools for success.” – Richard Carlson “Who are you” is one of the more polite, derogatory chants commonly heard in football stadiums when opposition fans want to question the ability of their opposition team...

How to Adapt to Change

How to Adapt to Change

Now more than ever, we are facing change; new circumstances, new challenges, and new uncertainties. “Change has a bad reputation in our society. But it isn’t all bad – not by any means. In fact, change is necessary for life – to keep us moving, to keep us growing, to...

Protect Your Mental Health During Lockdown

Protect Your Mental Health During Lockdown

Here in the UK, as with many other countries around the world that have been hit with the Covid-19 coronavirus pandemic, there is plenty of advice and guidance regarding social distancing, staying home, washing hands, being diligent and considerate in order that the...

Ways To Cope With Coronavirus Anxiety

Ways To Cope With Coronavirus Anxiety

Understandably, there is a lot of anxiety and concern around at the moment. “The key to overcome crisis is patience, courage, self-discipline, adaptation and alertness.” ― Amit Ray. The coronavirus outbreak is rippling across most of the world. The number of...

Coronavirus: False Claims, Theories and Conjecture

Coronavirus: False Claims, Theories and Conjecture

Since the last blog entry I wrote here over a week ago, many things have continued to rapidly change around the world due to the Coronavirus (COVID-19). With so much at risk for so many of us and so much that remains unknown, it's easy to understand why people are...

Stop Taking Crap From People in Your Life

Stop Taking Crap From People in Your Life

Seeking to be kinder has been incredibly topical here in recent weeks. However today I wanted to write about how to stop taking other people’s crap. In my professional field, I am staggered by the amount of politics, insults and derisory comments made to other...

How to Transform Your Weakness into Strength

How to Transform Your Weakness into Strength

“Sometimes you don’t realize your own strength until you come face to face with your greatest weakness.” —Susan Gale Weaknesses are nothing to be ashamed of. However, in an increasingly competitive world, we often feel like we have to hide them, or dismiss them in...

How to deal with Overwhelm

How to deal with Overwhelm

I encounter a lot of overwhelm – with my therapeutic clients who take too much on in life, with some of my students who leave all their coursework to the last minute, with those who I mentorwhose list of goals is overwhelming to read, let alone act upon, so today I...

7 Reasons To Never Give Up

7 Reasons To Never Give Up

“If you fall behind, run faster. Never give up, never surrender, and rise up against the odds.” ― Jesse Jackson We have all found ourselves in a situation where we wanted to quit: be it something you are working on, a goal you set for yourself or a competition you...

7 Ways to Improve Your Imagination

7 Ways to Improve Your Imagination

Learning to effectively employ one’s imagination is a key part of my work with clients, patients and students. It is important for use with a great many therapy interventions, important in so many aspects of life when seeking to advance; so much so that I wanted to...

Ways To Get Over The Hump (of those slowing Resolutions)

Ways To Get Over The Hump (of those slowing Resolutions)

“You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.”– Wayne Gretzky Every January plenty of people set resolutions and goals to move ahead, become a changed person, develop in all kinds of ways and much more besides. Many think back upon the last 365 days and consider...

Why You Should Take a Step Back to Move Forward

Why You Should Take a Step Back to Move Forward

At new year, everyone tends to get focused and pumped and start firing on into the year, and today I want to write about doing something contrary to that – taking a step back. “Take a step back, evaluate what is important, and enjoy life.” - Teri Garr Sometimes we all...

Stop Hating Your Life and Your Self

Stop Hating Your Life and Your Self

With the new year, I have encountered a number of clients who claim to hate themselves – their bodies, their behaviours, their lives in general. I have written often about learning to love yourself but I wanted to tackle the topic of hating oneself too, and offer up...

12 Ways to Express Yourself Out There

12 Ways to Express Yourself Out There

Today, I am writing all about how to effectively express yourself and how it can improve your life. “Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”- Bruce Lee Yes, expressing...

10 Ways To Stay Hungry for Success

10 Ways To Stay Hungry for Success

This is my final blog post of the year, and with it being published in the midst of the festive season here, it seemed very relevant to me to be writing about ‘staying hungry’ when most of us spend so much time during this season being stuffed full. Of course, I am...

Ways to Get Into The Christmas Spirit

Ways to Get Into The Christmas Spirit

“We are better throughout the year for having, in spirit, become a child again at Christmastime.” ―Laura Ingalls Wilder How people respond and react to Christmas does vary. There are those that absolutely love the holiday season, wear the Christmas jumpers, festive...

5 Ways To Find The Courage To Go After The Life You Want

5 Ways To Find The Courage To Go After The Life You Want

I speak with and meet so many people who are afraid of going after the life they truly want, it is such a recurring theme that I have chosen to write about having courage to go for it in life….. “I want to be in the arena. I want to be brave with my life. And when we...

How To Overcome Fear of Change

How To Overcome Fear of Change

Fear of change holds so many of us back. “It’s better to regret something you have done than regret something you haven’t done.” – Billie Joe Armstrong Change feels uncomfortable to many people. And when it comes to change, for some people the thought of transition is...

Qualities of A Leader Worth Following

Qualities of A Leader Worth Following

A topic I have explored much more intensely in recent times, is that of leadership, especially as I have headed up teams for a major event and organisation in my own professional field. “The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak;...

How To Think Freely

How To Think Freely

Many of us will have heard about the notion of being a free thinker, but how many of us actually are free thinkers?  “Freethinkers are those who are willing to use their minds without prejudice and without fearing to understand things that clash with their own...

How to Think Outside the Box

How to Think Outside the Box

It is a popular and common expression, and most of us have been encouraged to think outside the box and many of us believe that we do think outside the box – yet in my therapy rooms, in my classrooms, and in other areas of my personal and professional life, I...

Carpe Diem, Seize The Day

Carpe Diem, Seize The Day

In upcoming articles, I plan on writing about some well-known themes in personal development circles and showing how to truly apply them and benefit from them. Starting today, with the notion of seizing the day. “Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.”...

How to Stop Taking Things Personally

How to Stop Taking Things Personally

Throughout my earlier life, and plenty of my adult life, I took things far too personally. It plagued me. Today, I still have some of these feelings occur from time to time, but as a result of the exploration I have done, and the work I have done on myself and with...

How to Develop a Growth Mindset

How to Develop a Growth Mindset

What kind of a mindset do you have? Today I am encouraging you to adopt a growth mindset and explaining why I think it is so important. “Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson We often assume that people...

How To Stop Making Excuses

How To Stop Making Excuses

Are you making excuses instead of really living the life you want? Well if so, this article is aimed at you. “It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.” — George Washington This topic, along with my topic of last week are themes that are very close to my heart...

How to Develop Self-Control

How to Develop Self-Control

This year has required me to study and apply self-control in a number of ways. Training to run an ultra endurance running event, weight-lifting, building a particular physique in my mid-40s, raising my children, having a busy business, engaging in research has all...

How to Live Life with No Regrets

How to Live Life with No Regrets

As I have got older and time appears so much more precious, this has become a topic of increasing importance to me. When I write about having no regrets, this is not just classic death bed regrets, I am also referring to having no regrets when my children have grown...

How to Be a good friend

How to Be a good friend

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”– Muhammad Ali There are  plenty of studies that have explained how we...

How To Be a Great Role Model

How To Be a Great Role Model

“If you are given a chance to be a role model, I think you should always take it because you can influence a person's life in a positive light, and that's what I want to do. That's what it's all about.” -  Tiger Woods We usually think of role models as those we...

How to Stop Trying to Control Everything

How to Stop Trying to Control Everything

Today I am writing about one of the subjects that I spend a great deal of time talking to my students and clients about – how to stop trying to control everything, and in particular, stopping trying to control the uncontrollable. "Only one thing has to change for us...

How to Create and Live your Legacy

How to Create and Live your Legacy

My legacy; this is something I’ve been thinking about a bit more deeply recently as I am about to hit a Birthday that will see me closer to 50 than 40 and as I watch my children grow up. Will I have made any kind of an impact, what mark will I make? “If you’re going...

Why It’s Ok To Be A Weirdo

Why It’s Ok To Be A Weirdo

I’m an ultra-running, weight lifting, vegan, hypnotherapist, researcher of self-hypnosis with a “hypnosis geek” YouTube channel who has a penchant for bow ties, trucker caps and gin, who reads research papers and sci-fi novels for fun and loves watching documentaries...

How To Improve Self-Efficacy

How To Improve Self-Efficacy

I talk about self-efficacy a great deal in my classrooms, and it gets mentioned often in my research and today I wanted to write an article explaining what it is and how to apply it in one’s day-to-day life. “If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely...

How To Be Consistent in Life

How To Be Consistent in Life

This weekend just gone by, I was teaching the final module of my current hypnotherapy practitioner diploma course and we spend some time discussing applications of hypnosis for advancing sporting performance. One of the themes that crops up with applications of mental...

The Health Benefits Of Going Vegan

The Health Benefits Of Going Vegan

As of Boxing day last year, I went vegan. On rare occasions, I have been a bit flexitarian, that is, I have had the odd lapse on dairy here and there but not got stressed about it. I did Veganuary very strictly, and was strict in February but then stopped worrying if...

How to Live Your Dream Life

How to Live Your Dream Life

Live Your dream life - I know that it is a bit of an ambiguous term, and a dream life is going to be open to your own interpretation, but there are many qualities and ways of thinking that many people have in common when it comes to living the dream.  “When you reach...

How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories

How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories

Today, I don my foil cap and talk all things conspiracy theories, and focus on how to debunk them. Neil deGrasse Tyson, American astrophysicist and science communicator said:  "One of the biggest problems with the world today is that we have large groups of...

10 Ways to Feel More Secure

10 Ways to Feel More Secure

I speak with so many people in my professional life who experience insecurity, and in addition to the therapeutic assistance I offer, I tend to give some stock answers that I think all can benefit from – I thought I’d collate some of those answers to form today’s...

How To Think Like A Scientist In Everyday Life

How To Think Like A Scientist In Everyday Life

Scientific thinking is my topic today. I have wanted to write this article for a long time. Scientific thinking is not just the exclusive domain of academia, research or education – it is something of huge benefit to all of us. “The essence of the independent mind...

How to Enjoy Alone Time

How to Enjoy Alone Time

Enjoy your Alone time, solitude or time spent away from others is my topic today. I was joking in class last weekend about how I love spending time by myself and that I’d enjoy my work so much more if it involved less people. It was a joke and I talk often about the...

How to Control Overthinking

How to Control Overthinking

We all go through periods of overthinking and problematic rumination, some of us for longer than others and it is something I work with in my therapy rooms often as it contributes to a great many problems in life. The human mind seems to be unable to process a...

How to Boost Your Mental Energy and Be Happier

How to Boost Your Mental Energy and Be Happier

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote about dealing with mental fatigue and exhaustion and this week I wanted to write specifically and in more depth about boosting mental energy. We live in a time when many people are inclined to be very busy and are often stressed as a...

10 Ways To Boost Mood in Minutes

10 Ways To Boost Mood in Minutes

“Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions.”  - Dalai Lama. The mind-body connection is well-documented in research from neuroscience, psychiatry, and medicine. Researchers at the University of Nottingham has recently found a link...

How to Create Your Mission Statement?

How to Create Your Mission Statement?

When you have a mission statement, it lends purpose to your actions, and turns you into someone who is on a mission. I really like that. Creating a mission statement is what I’m writing about today.   “The two most important days in your life are the day you are...

Improving Your Self-Image

Improving Your Self-Image

Self-image is a topic I have not covered so much here, despite having a lot of articles on the topic of self-esteem, self-belief and self-compassion. “The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image.”  - Brian...

How to Overcome Psychological Exhaustion

How to Overcome Psychological Exhaustion

How to Overcome Psychological Exhaustion Mental fatigue and psychological exhaustion is a topic I’ve been meaning to write about for a while. “Sustained exhaustion is not a rite of passage. It's a mark of stupidity.”- Jason Fried. I’m purposely sharing this today. I...

How to feel less isolated and more engaged

How to feel less isolated and more engaged

Loneliness is my topic today. Or other, how to experience less loneliness, feel less isolated and feel more of a connection with the world, the people in it and to feel more engaged. “It would be impossible to estimate how much time and energy we invest in trying...

Stop Worrying What Other People Think

Stop Worrying What Other People Think

Stop worrying what other people think – at least if it is getting all-consuming and too much. We can take on board good advice, appreciate useful feedback, but worrying to the point of it becoming problematic with regards to what others think is what today’s article...

How to Live a More Meaningful Life

How to Live a More Meaningful Life

Within my professional field and those related, especially with the emergence of the very popular positive psychology field, the pursuit of happiness is of paramount importance and finding more happiness is what makes us feel better about who we are and the life we...

Ways to Be More Fun Person

Ways to Be More Fun Person

We all know a “fun person” don’t we? Someone who is just great to be around. I have a couple of friends that I love being around and I talk about them often when I am teaching. If you want to be a person whom people love to be around, you sometimes have to be a...

Ways to Reduce A Materialistic Lifestyle

Ways to Reduce A Materialistic Lifestyle

Does materialism and being materialistic really deliver the kind of happiness and enrichment or meaning that people seek in life? I’m not convinced it does. Recently, I took over the UK Hypnosis Convention and had lots of people desperate to give me advice about how...

How To Find Balance In Your Life

How To Find Balance In Your Life

Balance is our theme today…. “The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man.” – Euripides. Maintaining balance in life is what many...

Getting Over Denial

Getting Over Denial

Are you in denial? “It takes a lot of courage to face up to things you can't do because we feed ourselves so much denial.” - Zoe Saldana. We’re all in denial. We’d barely get through the day if we worried that we or people we love could die today. Life is...

How to Live with Integrity

How to Live with Integrity

Living life with integrity is my topic today. "No amount of ability is of the slightest avail without honour." - Andrew Carnegie. According to the Collins Dictionary online, "if you have integrity, you are honest and firm in your moral principles." Personal integrity...

How To Be Present And Why It Matters

How To Be Present And Why It Matters

Be present. That’s my message today. “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha. Some people may well say it’s obvious or even redundant to say this is the one rule everyone should try to stick to: Be...

10 Steps to Make This Your Best Year Ever

10 Steps to Make This Your Best Year Ever

Your best year ever - It is a grand statement indeed.“We have to do the best we are capable of. This is our sacred human responsibility.” ~ Albert Einstein. Yes, it’s 2019 already! I recognise that is the kind of statement that smacks of a man in his mid 40s, but to...

Why Accepting Your Mortality is Good For You

Why Accepting Your Mortality is Good For You

Accepting mortality – sounds like a bit of a morbid way to start the year here on my blog, I understand how that might initially appear and how worrying some might find the chosen imagery and the terms used on it at the top of this entry. That is a symptom of what I'm...

Ways to Make the Most of This Festive Season

Ways to Make the Most of This Festive Season

It's the festive season - Happy Christmas to everyone. We are in the biggest holiday season of the year (well, for those of us in countries that celebrate Christmas anyway). For many of us, this is also a time of reflection to see how our year has been, what we can do...

Embrace Your Sensitivity

Embrace Your Sensitivity

Embrace your sensitivity is my message today. 

Throughout my entire life, I have been overly sensitive. It was not until my early adult life that I was self-aware enough to address it, and really not until the last decade that I have learned to actually embrace it...

7 Simple Ways to Practice Kindness

7 Simple Ways to Practice Kindness

Be kind. I teach this simple message to my children when they are fighting, to my clients when they have jealousy or anger issues, to friends, colleagues, students and to myself, simply that – be kind. It’s so easy for us to get caught up in our own lives and the...

Stop Running Away from Your Problems

Stop Running Away from Your Problems

Stop running away. No, this is not what I say to our pet cockapoo Wilma when on walks, because she is wonderfully well behaved. I’m talking about people who run away from their problems or other aspects of life…. “Don’t run away from challenges, run over them.” - Joan...

Why and How to Be Authentic in Everyday Life

Why and How to Be Authentic in Everyday Life

Be authentic. Be genuine. Initially seems simple, yet so many seem to struggle with being so. That’s what today’s blog entry is all about – learning how to be authentic. “Authenticity” is all about being real. Genuine, not an imitation. Have you found yourself truly...

How To Know That You Matter

How To Know That You Matter

You matter. I’m writing this inspired by a client of mine who believed she did not matter and it depressed her. One of my favourite films ever is due to have it’s annual outing on our TV screens as the festive season draws closer; It’s a wonderful life. Here is the...

How to Stop Procrastinating

How to Stop Procrastinating

Stop procrastinating – that is the goal here, though many people find it incredibly tough to do so. Procrastination is the action of delaying or postponing something. You hesitate, you dither, you stall and you end up avoiding a task that needs to be accomplished. It...

How To Make Better Choices

How To Make Better Choices

We can all benefit from making better choices…. “I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. It therefore makes sense to learn how...

Keep Your Mind Sharp: How To Do So

Keep Your Mind Sharp: How To Do So

Keep your mind sharp is the message today. “Have an open mind – allow different ideas into your way of thinking.” – Peter Diamandis. Certainly, we are all familiar with the fact that to remain in good physical health, it is important to exercise and eat our five (or...

How to Be Proud of Yourself

How to Be Proud of Yourself

Be proud of yourself, that is my message today, and I want to give you some help in doing so. Here in the UK, last weekend, we had the London Pride parade and England football fans have been revelling in some new found footballing pride as the national team reached...

How To Stop Being Defensive

How To Stop Being Defensive

Stop being defensive, that is my message today. I encounter a lot of defensiveness. One of the reasons is that because I have a very particular set of values about the way hypnotherapy should be conducted and because my college and I adhere to such an evidence-based...

Take Responsibility For Your Life

Take Responsibility For Your Life

Take responsibility of your life – that is the message and the aim of today’s blog entry. “The price of greatness is responsibility.” - Winston Churchill. The word responsible comes from two words: response and able. Seems obvious. Therefore, being responsible for...

The Importance of Reading More: Why You Need To Read More

The Importance of Reading More: Why You Need To Read More

Reading is important, but you know that already, don’t you? What about the importance of reading more than you actually do currently though? I’m sat here writing this during a break in proceedings while running my advanced hypnotherapy practitioner diploma for...

How to Be Brave

How to Be Brave

Being brave, my topic today. At first sounds obvious and simple, but is not necessarily always as it first seems. “If you always put a limit on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There...

How to Motivate Yourself to Take Action

How to Motivate Yourself to Take Action

Today, my aim is to help you to take action. "Action is the foundational key to all success." - Pablo Picasso. It doesn't matter how experienced we are, or at which stage in life's journey we find ourselves, we all need a little help to keep ourselves going on...

How to Stop Emotional Eating

How to Stop Emotional Eating

Emotional eating is something many of us do. It becomes a problem if it becomes too much of a regular habit. You’ve had a stressful day, or an emotionally challenging time, or feel drained and tired with your emotions all over the place…. You reach for a chocolate...

Why I Recommend You Break the Rules

Why I Recommend You Break the Rules

Break the rules! That’s right, go grab the rulebook by which you are leading your life, tear it in half (as long as it is no thicker than a telephone directory) and cast it out of the window! Today, you have permission to become a rebel in your own life…. “Remember:...

Video of Hypnotic Anaesthesia Demo

Video of Hypnotic Anaesthesia Demo

Those of you that follow my Facebook, Twitter or Instagram accounts will have seen that in recent weeks I shared a number of photos of people with pins through their arms and clamps attached to their body as a result of the hypnotic anaesthesia and analgesia that we...

How to Effectively Make Your Point and Win More Arguments

How to Effectively Make Your Point and Win More Arguments

How do you win more arguments? Well, as tends to happen within my professional field, it is not all about shouting the loudest or refusing to listen to contrasting perspectives - when you learn to make your point more effectively, you benefit in a variety of ways and...

Ways to Lead an Inspired Life

Ways to Lead an Inspired Life

Leading an inspired life is my topic today, the international day of happiness. “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” – Mark Twain. Today’s article is about leading an inspired life, not strictly about...

Stand Up For What You Believe In

Stand Up For What You Believe In

Do you stand up for what you believe in? Today, this is my subject and it is an important one to me. “A man who won't die for something is not fit to live.” - Martin Luther King Jr. One of the most prominent African-American civil rights leaders Martin Luther King Jr,...

8 Tips for Leading an Extraordinary Life

8 Tips for Leading an Extraordinary Life

An extraordinary life – there seem to be trends to so many of the topics I write about here on this blog, and there are numerous recurring themes that I thought I’d highlight here today because if you incorporate some or all of these things, you’ll find it much easier...

Celebrating 21 Years As a Hypnotherapist!

Celebrating 21 Years As a Hypnotherapist!

This week marked the anniversary of me setting up my first hypnotherapy practice, some 21 years ago! My qualifications and professional memberships predate this of course, but I set up my hypnotherapy business 21 years ago. I am getting plenty of congratulations from...

Finding Hope in Difficult Times

Finding Hope in Difficult Times

Hope is something that is a major theme with my hypnotherapy clients, my students, my friends and family. Today, we find hope. Today, we hold on to hope, we celebrate hope. In the Star Wars film Rogue One, Cassian Andor is speaking to Jyn Erso while they are trying to...

How To Make Yourself Indispensable

How To Make Yourself Indispensable

How to be indispensable? As a title to a blog article, it sounds rather grand, but I’m writing on this subject for a very particular reason: We are now in the second week of the new year and I have had to stop taking new one-to-one clients as I am fully booked now...

Creating a Vision For Your life

Creating a Vision For Your life

Vision is my topic today, because it has begun, hasn’t it? All the “New Year – New You” stuff. All the articles about goals, resolutions, making changes and so on. All of which, if I am honest, I love. 

It seems pretty fashionable to say that we should be that way...

Adversity: How to Overcome it and Be Stronger

Adversity: How to Overcome it and Be Stronger

Adversity is my topic today. I want to offer up the idea that adversity is not to be feared or avoided, but actually embraced in order that we can grow and develop. “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater...

Ways Physical Exercise Boosts Mental Health

Ways Physical Exercise Boosts Mental Health

Physical exercise boosts mental health – I mention this often, but have never really gone into detail about it. Today I thought I would do so….. “To enjoy the glow of good health, you must exercise.” ~ Gene Tunney Many of us know the physical benefits of a healthy...

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Do you compare yourself to others? Well today, I’m writing about why you need to stop comparing yourself to others. "The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new" ~ Socrates. At the very early stages of my career,...

How To Live Life On Your Own Terms

How To Live Life On Your Own Terms

“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you’re proud to live” – Anne Sweeney. With my clients and in my classroom, we often examine the subject of thinking errors – thoughts that people have that contribute to their problems...

The 2017 UK Hypnosis Convention: My Brief Report

The 2017 UK Hypnosis Convention: My Brief Report

This weekend just gone by was the second UK Hypnosis Convention held at the Canary Wharf Hilton Hotel in London. I was well involved in the inaugural event last year when it was an unknown quantity and with it having been such a success, there was potentially added...

Halloween Shenanigans.

Halloween Shenanigans.

This weekend gone by, we had some Halloween shenanigans. On Saturday, we had a family trip to a local nature reserve and we took part in a Halloween nature trail. We had to follow clues and work out a famous Witch phrase in order to win a prize at the end. Along the...

Legoland, Love and Evidence Based Lego Learnings

Legoland, Love and Evidence Based Lego Learnings

You’ll have to excuse the alliteration with today’s title, but the words of love, Lego, learning and Legoland are all totally appropriate and necessary in explaining what today’s blog entry is all about. I am going to delve into the evidence base and psychology of...

6 Ways to Overcome Self-doubt

6 Ways to Overcome Self-doubt

Self-doubt cripples the careers and lives of so many people. My wife and I put together videos of our family life for each year since having children. We keep them all on discs and they are for our children to be able to see pictures and video clips of how their lives...

It’s Been Air Show Time Again Here

It’s Been Air Show Time Again Here

Each year since having children, I have marched my family down to our beach hut to watch the Bournemouth Air Festival and show for the full event. It has become a bit of a family event that we all look forward to now. I wrote in detail last year about why anyone...

Ways To Find More Fun in Life

Ways To Find More Fun in Life

Fun, fun, fun! That is what I’m writing about today! “Even though you're growing up, you should never stop having fun.” – Nina Dobrev Those who have trained with me at my hypnotherapy training college, attended hypnotherapy sessions with me as a client, or attended...

I’m Back After Our Family Camping Tour De France

I’m Back After Our Family Camping Tour De France

Phew. What an amazing fortnight. Last time out here on the blog I wrote about the benefits of having a holiday, and I have written about my love of camping before, as well as the benefits of and my love for family time, so I’m not going to repeat all of those things...

WE ARE CLOSED FOR THE HOLIDAYS.

WE ARE CLOSED FOR THE HOLIDAYS.

We are now closed for our Summer Holidays. Our offices will re-open on Tuesday the 29th of August. I'll pick up emails sporadically, so for anything really urgent, email me. I'll probably post a picture or two on Twitter and Instagram. Stay classy.

The Psychological and Physical Benefits of a Holiday

The Psychological and Physical Benefits of a Holiday

My newsfeed has been charting the whereabouts of my football teams layers this Summer, I follow my team’s output so that I can stay updated with scores and transfers, but in the Summer I am advised on where they are all taking their holidays. Then in the more serious...

Ways to Master the Art of Grit and Perseverance

Ways to Master the Art of Grit and Perseverance

“I do not think that there is any other quality as essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost anything, even nature.”- John D. Rockefeller. Like many other English words, perseverance derives from the Latin words “Per” meaning...

It’s My Birthday Today – All the 4s!!

It’s My Birthday Today – All the 4s!!

I’m not officially in the office today. I sort of popped in to write this and send a couple of important email messages that would not wait until tomorrow. Plus, I’m off on holiday this coming weekend and I’m doing all I can to ensure that my empire does not crumble...

The Value of Being Around Inspiring People

The Value of Being Around Inspiring People

Last weekend, my son and I did a bit of Parkrun tourism. In recent weeks, we have run Bournemouth, Poole, Moors Valley, Upton Country Park, Basingstoke and were looking for a different one to do as we had some time to go slightly beyond the usual local parameters. SO...

I’ve Been Camping It Up!

I’ve Been Camping It Up!

I’m back in the office after a few days away camping with my wife, children, some great friends and our dogs. I love it, I just love it. We walked the dogs through forests and saw some of the best views of Dorset I have ever encountered, we ate far too much, we drank...

How to Effectively Deal With Criticism

How to Effectively Deal With Criticism

Typically, there are not many people around who sit down in a performance review and say, "Please give me your worst possible criticism about my ability to do my job and don't hold back...it's okay - I can take it." Constructive feedback is preferable and more...

How to Bounce Back From Being Knocked Down

How to Bounce Back From Being Knocked Down

When you read through your social media streams, you are able to find warmth and fuzziness everywhere. It is often lovely. There is an endless stream of motivational quotes, uplifting memes, pictures of cuteness and much more besides. However, as we all know, life is...

The 2017 UK Hypnosis Convention Is Looking Hot!

The 2017 UK Hypnosis Convention Is Looking Hot!

Today, the organiser of the UK Hypnosis Convention Nick Ebdon announced the timetable for the event taking place later this year (November 3-5). I thought this was a very good time to say that I think this is the leading event of it's kind in the UK and if you are a...

How To Learn From Failure

How To Learn From Failure

Failure: I struggle to even use the word at all here because of what it typically implies. Yet I tend to think that anything deemed as a failure is actually something that helps us grow, and has the potential to be incredibly positive. In personal development circles,...

Increase Focus: 10 Ways to Stay Focused

Increase Focus: 10 Ways to Stay Focused

Focus and getting focused! This is what I’m writing about this week. One thing I encounter in a variety of ways with my students, hypnotherapy clients, and in particular the hypnotherapists that I mentor is that they have a lot of goals that they wish to achieve....

Quick Clip of My Weight Lifting Progress This Year

Quick Clip of My Weight Lifting Progress This Year

If you read my weekly Adam Up ezine, you’ll know that I have taken up weightlifting. I really enjoy it. I came from an endurance background and as a runner, I had a number of mental skills that stood me in good stead, but heck, it is a whole new world and is testing...

Use Self-Hypnosis To Advance Your Empathy

Use Self-Hypnosis To Advance Your Empathy

Yesterday I wrote about some scientifically validated ways to improve and increase your empathy. The key point I hoped anyone reading would take away, is that empathy is not simply innate, rather it can be developed and skillfully increased. You can read yesterday’s...

Using Self-Hypnosis To Boost Memory and Accelerate Learning

Using Self-Hypnosis To Boost Memory and Accelerate Learning

Yesterday I wrote about some pretty solid, research backed strategies for boosting memory. (Read that here: 9 Ways To Boost Your memory) In the past, I have written about and have audio programmes that explore and instruct people how to advance memory with specific...

9 Ways to Boost Your Memory

9 Ways to Boost Your Memory

Do you get a tad forgetful on occasion? Well, that does not necessarily mean that you have a problem with your memory, but your memory might benefit from some improvement. Well, this is not something rare; in fact, the majority of the population today suffers from...

8 Breathing Exercises to Enhance Well-Being

8 Breathing Exercises to Enhance Well-Being

Breathing is something special. Very often, when we take a good look inside, when we spend some time being really mindful, we get to glimpse at how incredible it is to be alive, and to observe ourselves living can be an awe-inspiring and beautiful thing to do. It is...

9 Ways To Make The Most Of Your Time

9 Ways To Make The Most Of Your Time

Last week I was focusing heavily on the notion of having a major emotional Spring clean, and it makes a lot of sense that once you have found the space in your head and in made some room in your life, to then follow it all up with using your time effectively. When we...

9 Ways to Have an Emotional Spring Clean

9 Ways to Have an Emotional Spring Clean

Last weekend, I very nearly fetched my Geraniums out of the greenhouse where they’ve been hibernating all Winter, but chose to leave them there for a bit longer and I am pleased I did so as we’ve had a couple of frosty mornings since! It is almost Spring and time for...

How to Beat The Monday Blues

How to Beat The Monday Blues

It is Monday morning. People have the Monday blues apparently. My newsfeeds are ram packed full of memes about Monday mornings, groaning about going back to work, about how the weekend ended too soon and that they are reaching for the coffee to begrudgingly kick start...

7 Steps To Leave Your Comfort Zone

7 Steps To Leave Your Comfort Zone

I wrote yesterday that we've all heard that "life begins outside of your comfort zone" or some variation of the phrase. I then wrote about the benefits of stepping out of your comfort zone. As I wrote, our comfort zone is what we're accustomed doing. It's those...

Important Reasons to Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

Important Reasons to Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

So the oft-quoted saying goes….. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. When you spend your adult life working in and around the personal development world, it is hard not to be familiar with the idea of us all having a comfort zone, and that by stepping out of...

I Love The Olympics!

I Love The Olympics!

On this Monday morning, one of the many things to be wonderfully happy about here in Great Britain, is the current Olympic Medal table. For a small island nation that we are here, with a fraction of the population of the US, China, Russia (though the Russians have a...

Let Fate Decide!

Let Fate Decide!

Well that is a rather dramatic title to today’s article, isn’t it? I feel like it needs to be accompanied by one of these musical snippets! What am I talking about here then? Ok, so there was an episode of the Big Bang Theory where Sheldon decides to rest his brain,...

How To Keep Yourself Motivated

How To Keep Yourself Motivated

“Of course motivation is not permanent. But then, neither is bathing; but it is something you should do on a regular basis.” ― Zig Ziglar This is one of the first ever motivational quotes I can recall reading and hearing when I first started taking an interest in...

7 Ways To Be More Self-Disciplined

7 Ways To Be More Self-Disciplined

“With self-discipline most anything is possible.” - Theodore Roosevelt When I have discussions with clients and colleagues about being productive, running marathons, developing my hypnotherapy business and so on, I am keen to point out that the central thing fueling...

Why You Should Value Selfishness

Why You Should Value Selfishness

I am a real fan of the author Ayn Rand. In fact, ‘The Fountainhead’ is one of my all time favourite books (and not just because the main male character had red hair and is the ultimate hero of individualism) and ‘Atlas Shrugged’ is another I love. However, it is her...

My Dream Interviewees From The Hypnosis Field

My Dream Interviewees From The Hypnosis Field

2016 stands out already as a year that we have lost a number of well-loved and very popular figures. First Lemmy, then David Bowie and Alan Rickman followed this week by Terry Wogan. There have been others too. On Facebook I saw someone mention that “God was just...

How To Love What You Do

How To Love What You Do

Last Summer I wrote an article entitled why I think hypnotherapy students and hypnotherapists love the attraction of hypnotherapy. Do have a read. I wrote about the love that people in this field have for this field and the reasons I believe that it happens. In the...

How to Deal with Criticism Effectively

How to Deal with Criticism Effectively

Criticism can effect every and any aspect of your life, for many it adds stress during work hours and can dent a good mood, sending it spiraling into a mud pit of self-loathing. If you don't deal with criticism well, negative feedback from your superiors, colleagues...

Believe in Yourself!

Believe in Yourself!

Today, I considered starting with a song, I began singing while writing, “Just a small town girl, Livin’ in a lonely woooo-rrld, She took the midnight train Goin’ anywhere….” I got wrapped up in the whole thing, played the YouTube clip to myself a few times, got...

Learn To Enjoy Life’s Problems

Learn To Enjoy Life’s Problems

Life's Problems Are Inevitable In the hub recently, a colleague started a discussion about the film 'Inside Out' It is a film aimed primarily at children. I took my children to the cinema and they loved it. The film is set inside the head of a young girl and her...

Wake Up And Be Awesome!

Wake Up And Be Awesome!

A while ago I offered up a self-hypnosis process for starting the day, which I love and use often. The way we start the day is so vital to having a thriving, productive day that we look back upon and feel like we achieved something. As I researched here, there and...

Evidence Based Hypnotherapy Meme of The Week…

Evidence Based Hypnotherapy Memes

A little while ago I started putting together some evidence-based hypnotherapy memes that I put on Facebook. It all started with this funny one, I asked students, graduates and hypnotherapists who knew my college to spread the wisdom of Morpheus: And then I got a lot...

The Psychology of Voting: Voting Day Rapport Dynamics That Influence Us

Voting Day Rapport Dynamics That Influence Us

I have just had a great week away with my family after running the London marathon. It was our first family holiday away since having children and we had a great time together. Having run London marathon, nothing beats cycling around a hilly Centreparcs environment...

Top Ten Psychological Tips For Marathon Race Day

Top Ten Psychological Tips For Marathon Race Day

It is the week of London marathon, one of the world’s largest mass participation events and a true spectacle that I’ll be running once again. Yesterday, I traveled up to London for the expo event and the Excel centre. It is where you pick up your race number and...

Enjoying the Simple Stuff and Why A x B = C

Enjoying the Simple Stuff and Why A x B = C

The sun was shining beautifully here when I wrote this… The doors of my garden office are opened fully, a gentle breeze sweeps in every now and then and the only sound is me tapping at my keyboard and the bird song or the odd buzzing insect who darts in and out from...

Using Stoic Negative Visualisation With Self-Hypnosis

Using Stoic Negative Visualisation With Self-Hypnosis

Last September, I made a number of key changes in my life. I changed my eating habits greatly, I changed my running regimen greatly compared to previous years (running style, posture etc) and I also chose to stop just paying lip service to the notion of having a life...

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What Does ‘Buloo!’ Mean Adam?

Just a quick and short blog entry here today. To be honest, this is a blog entry that I’ll use as a reference point and send people to, or that they’ll google and find out for themselves the answer to their questions… Because I get asked a particular question often;...

What Does 'Buloo!' Mean Adam?

Just a quick and short blog entry here today. To be honest, this is a blog entry that I’ll use as a reference point and send people to, or that they’ll google and find out for themselves the answer to their questions… Because I get asked a particular question often;...

Hypnosis for Running into 2015

From my Hypnosis for Running blog: Happy New Year! Hypnosis for running is charged and motoring full steam ahead for 2015. Back in 2012 I ran five marathons in succession, getting personal best times at two of the events. Since then, my running progress has stuttered...

Some Reflections on Being a Dad

This main blog of mine has not had as much input as it usually enjoys and that is in part due to the fact that having become a Father again recently, my time and attention has been spent elsewhere. I decided to write this non-hypnosis-related blog entry because I sit...

What About That Six-Pack Adam?

A couple of you have emailed me and asked me about this. There is no escaping you regular readers…. Yes indeed, a couple of months back, on this very blog, I said that at the time of my 40th Birthday I was aiming to have a six-pack and that I’d explain what I’d done...

For Those That Missed It Last Week….

For Those That Missed It Last Week….

Last week, in my weekly ezine Adam Up, I offered up a different kind of article, before this blog gets back into it's usual self as I get back into the swing after my holiday, I thought I'd share that article in case you missed it..... This is my 40th Birthday edition...