Do you and your ‘significant other’ (I dislike that official sounding term) have special names for each other? My wife and I do. Private, intimate, wonderfully loving things that we reserve for each other and almost never use in public. Everytime I hear those words, it has that hypnotic influence upon me, triggers things, pulls strings inside and I am reminded of my love.

I have been reading a great book on the secrets of successful marriages and parts of it have had me laughing out loud. The couple that wrote it interviewed many, many people about their successful marriages… In nearly every case they wrote about, they had an affectionate nickname for each other. The authors relate the nickname to being a sort of private “code” for telling that person you love them.


Many of my friends call their other halves “honey” and “sweetheart” and the book mentions several that you have probably heard many times before – “lovey-dovey,” “sweetie-pie,” “sugar,” “snookie-poo,” “honey,” “darling,” “sweetness,” “sweetpea,” “baby girl,” “lover boy,” “sunshine,” “sugarplum,” “baby-doll,” “hey, handsome,” “hey, beautiful,” and so forth…. I can’t stop smiling and giggling when I read those!

Some I thought were hilarious… Names like “Butch” in reference to a very petite wife seem unusual, but to her husband, it is an endearing term. “Snookems,” in reference to a very manly-man does not compute with most people, but to his wife, the term is an expression of love and affection. And the list goes on…

Of course, the more they get used, the more they mean, the more attachment to the special name it has and the more the emotional investment… It is a lovely, progressive hypnotic thing that is occurring and that was all I wanted to write today. I wish you a wonderful weekend, I’ll be back on Monday 🙂