Why There Must Be Humour In Hypnotherapy Training
Why There Must Be Humour In Hypnotherapy Training
One of the cornerstones of my hypnotherapy training
courses is teaching my budding hypnotherapists that it is ok to have
fun, when they are in hypnotherapy training and when hey start
practicing full-time as a hypnotherapist… Yes indeed, even in
hypnotherapy sessions with clients… Let me explain…
Soap Operas seem to promote “serious issues”, our media is heavily
punctuated with seriousness… Being serious seems to be proliferating
our existence… Then grows into fear… and what with all this recession
scaremongering…. Sheeez!
This weekend I am running my hypnotherapy training diploma and one of the subjects that I am teaching is “how to be happy.”
Hmmm… It is my way of showing my students how to work
therapeutically with a variety of people displaying depressive symptoms
and thought it a better title to that section of the day than “dealing
with depression” which so many hypnotherapy training schools do and
never inspired me for the learning ahead….
I must say, on the hypnotherapy diploma course, we laugh a great
deal. We really do have fun, I insist upon it… I want to explain why I
find it so important…. Firstly, it creates a great learning
environment, we learn more when we are happy and laughing… ANd lots of
what we learn when we laugh bypasses the conscious faculty.
I watch comedy every week… Heck, I spend lots of my day working with
people diagnosed as being depressed, ill, fed-up, limited in some way
etc, etc… I think laughter is a crucial tonic to keep me in my merry
place. So when you are studying away or engaged upon your hypnotherapy
training let me ask you a very important question….
How much do you really laugh?
Not that polite titter you do in response to certain things… I am talking about a full-hearted, belly bursting, proper laugh.
Some people find laughter a serious business! I can remember
watching stage hypnotist and hypnosis trainer Paul McKenna running a
hypnosis training seminar and anchoring laughter and giggles into
someone on stage and he was pretending to be a ‘Gestapo’ like character
and kept saying to the guy “You vill not laff! Zis iz seee-ree-uss!” I
know, you had to be there, but it took apart the notion of laughter
being a serious business, the guy on stage was in fits of giggles and
it had me rolling about the place…
Getting fun and laughter out of some folk is like blood out of a
stone…. Apparently, the average adult laughs 15 times a day; the
average child, more than 400 times. Fair enough, kids are learning
their way through feelings and emotions and could be giggling wildly
one moment and screaming in anger the next, however, you get my point,
don’t you?
The reason I am writing about this today, I think it is important
for anyone that is hypnotherapy training, to know that it is well
documented that developing and maintaining a sense of humour helps
prevent and lift clinical depression because laughing produces ‘feel
good chemicals’ and even subdues physical pain, humour helps us reframe
events and ‘get outside them’ rather than feeling bogged down by them.
A well developed sense of humour attracts other people to us socially
and wide social networks are also a preventative and palliative as far
as depression is concerned.
Heck, if you need any more convincing of this notion, then watch
Robin Williams starring in the film Patch Adams which articulates the
point very well indeed… An unconventional doctor who actually
encouraged his patients to laugh and be mischievous in the face of more
conventional serious healthcare of the time.
We all need to cultivate humour not just to lead happier lives but to encourage flexibility of thought.
Of course people with a sense of humour can develop depressions -
some of my favourite comedians apparently suffered from depression -
Frankie Howerd, Kenneth Williams (and Benny Hill — not really
favourite of mine) — Though I did watch more than just carry on films
as a child developing a sense of humour, hahahaha. You can see it
though, can’t you? That is, one of the first symptoms of depression
setting in can often be losing ones sense of humour — heck, helping
that person find it again could well be just the remedy!
Humour can provide us with seriously important and valid
perspectives, goodness, my Mum used to always say “never a truer word
is spoken in jest…” I used to frown at her saying that… Until I
actually listened to the jokes my friends used to make about each other
in the pub at weekends when I was younger and I started to realise!
Some say that people who joke in the face of diversity may be
suffering ‘denial’ — ususally it is the stuffy, conventional mindset
that thinks such a thing, pulling us into some sort of insistence to
conform to being properly miserable…
I’d like to think that instead of denial, they simply possess a
developed capacity for objectivity. Never let us forget that it was
Oscar Wilde who on his death bed said ‘Either this wallpaper goes or I
do!’ Hahaha….
Have you really laughed today; even inwardly? Have you found the humour in what is going on?
When I was at school, I often found myself sat in the front of the
headmaster being told off for being naughty… School did not stimulate
me, I needed more than just verbatim regurgitation of information as my
school curriculum mainly comprised of… Yet whenever I was there
perplexing the headmaster (I think it irritated him that I got straight
A’s) and he was shouting away, I’d find something ridiculous, I’d find
something funny and I’d start giggling… “Eason, stop this insolence!”
came the roar… You know what happens when you bottle up giggles, they
want to burst out of your skin, they increase and amplify and
everything becomes hilarious… Man, that is a glorious sensation.
Even today, the same happens if I have to sit quietly being serious
with my solicitor, bank manager or accountant. They must think I am
strange for giggling so much…
When we take things seriously, when we make life such a serious
business, I think it can become far less flexible… It becomes staid and
stagnant and joy finds it hard to exist in such a place… The same is
true within hypnotherapy training and actually being a hypnotherapist -
or therapist of any kind.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes people make you feel
defensive, I used to allow myself to feel defensive, until I started
joking and laughing things off… It genuinely is the cornerstone of my
therapeutic technique these days and central to my hypnotherapy
training …
Humour has always been banned under dictatorships; comedians are seen
as a threat. Why? Because humour can illuminate truths, break through
the constraints of narrow thinking and puncture self importance. Humour
shows we are not afraid. Tyrants hate to be laughed at and they
certainly don’t laugh at themselves. But the really surprising truth is
that we all live under types of dictatorships.
Human beings often create, then subsequently live within the constraints of their own personal psychological dictatorships.
These personal restrictive ‘jails’ are built on a solid foundation
of rigid rules and assumptions of right and wrong, with walls of
’shoulds’ and ‘oughts’ and ‘mustn’ts’, strong bars of perfectionism,
unbreakable locks of defeatism, and guards of arrogance on constant
duty to ‘be right’. And that arrogance can extend to ‘being right’ that
one is totally inferior to other people. Or that life is bad.
The right humour applied at the right time by the right person can
work as an escape tunnel…. Burrowing out and away from stifling narrow
seriousness and restricted ‘one track’ perception.
Surely these days, we are all increasingly aware of the mental and
physical health benefits of regular laughter. Many studies illustrate
that genuine laughter reduces stress hormones, relieves pain, relaxes
us and produces endorphins and serotonin. Laughing regularly can ward
off depression and help you sleep better and generally enjoy life more.
We even call people who make us laugh ‘a real tonic’.
Rght now, if you force a smile onto your face 3 times in a row, you
can even feel the small shot of serotonin you just fired into your body
from your brain as it associates that within you…
Humour frees up restricted and limiting thinking. In my experience,
all good teachers, therapists and leaders have instinctively known how
to use humour …. Good hypnotherapy training needs it, good hypnotherapy
needs its appropriate use too. My first hypnotherapy training course as
a young student was devoid of humour and I look upon that particular
hypnotherapy raining as a place where I learned the least… See how much
truly exists in your day-to-day existence and think of injecting more…
Especially in your hypnotherapy training!
